Anger is an interesting emotion. If you pay attention to it, it will teach you a lesson about yourself.
Where there is anger there is an un-met need.
Try to find the hidden need and abandon re-acting to the strong anger emotion directed to you or from you. Your mission is to Try to address the Need (Unless the anger esculates to a violent attack, then do what you need to do).
Verbal Abuse is a good example of hidden needs that are not being satisfied.